I didn’t want post traumatic stress, so I gave myself post traumatic growth instead. Here’s how:
- Asking quality questions like: “what can I learn from this experience?”
Questions asked with a curious tone point the brain towards how the experience was beneficial in terms of learning and growth.
- Rather than victimise myself by thinking something happened TO me, I considered how it was FOR me.
A quality question I asked myself is “How has this been valuable for me?”
- Allowing myself to feel how I feel.
No matter what feelings arise in me, I welcome them all and feel them fully until they have dissipated entirely. This is an ongoing process.
- Looking for the love.
Looking for the love is my way of saying, “What can I appreciate here?” We will always find something to be grateful for if we are earnest and sincere in looking.
- Sharing honestly.
I didn’t hide my experience of the situation. I shared about it publicly relatively quickly after it occurred.